People pleaser
“Nice guy” is an informal term, commonly used with either a literal or a sarcastic meaning, for a man.
In the literal sense, the term describes a man who is agreeable, gentle, compassionate, sensitive and vulnerable.When used positively, and particularly when used as a preference or description by someone else, it is intended to imply a man who puts the needs of others before his own, avoids confrontations, does favors, provides emotional support, tries to stay out of trouble, and generally acts nicely towards others. In the context of a relationship, it may also refer to traits of honesty, loyalty, romanticism, courtesy, and respect.
When used negatively, a nice guy implies a man who is unassertive or otherwise “non-masculine”.The opposite of a genuine “nice guy” is commonly described as a “jerk”, a term for a mean, selfish and uncaring person. A man is labeled a “jerk” on how he treats his partner, seen as the extreme case where he would not have a sensitive or kind side and is seen as a “macho man” and insensitive type.
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People-pleasing
https://psychologytoday.com/us/basics/people-pleasing
Seeking approval and validation from others is a hallmark trait of a people-pleaser. This person wants assurance that he matters to the people around him. He doesn’t look for validation from within, he seeks it everywhere else. He wants to be recognized and accepted by everyone. For the most part, if he feels well-liked, he can relax and like himself as well.
The people-pleaser may have traits that include:
low self-worth
accommodates everyone else’s needs
undermines her own needs
goes with the flow that’s dictated by others
is too agreeable, in general
rarely says no
values praise from others
says sorry, when no apology is required
takes the blame, when not at fault
makes excuses for the faults of others
has little self-awareness
The need to please: The psychology of people-pleasing
https://livewellwithsharonmartin.com/psychology-of-people-pleasing
Do you have a strong desire to please others?
You think too much about other people and not enough about yourself
You assume others are judging or criticizing you
Overcome people-pleasing, codependency, and low self-esteem
The nice guy
A short-short story: Is being kind worth it?
https://psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-do-life/201607/the-nice-guy
Nice guys: a background, common traits & the psychology
https://mindandpractice.com/nice-guys-a-background-common-traits-the-psychology
How to overcome the “Nice guy syndrome”
https://mindandpractice.com/how-to-overcome-the-nice-guy-syndrome
